“You are a worthless idiot”
“Why can’t you be more like your sister”
Being told something often enough the child begins to believe it. Being told it by a parent imprints it doubly because they are a powerfully hypnotic figure of authority. Not being loved for the wonderful child that you are can have a deeply traumatic effect on the rest of your life. If you are so worthless you are bound to fail. “There must be something wrong with me” the child decides.
How could you survive with such an unrealistically low opinion of yourself?
If you have been programmed to hate yourself as a child you are going to ignore your strengths and look for proof of your worthlessness.
It could be that the authority figure was effecting the child deliberately. Low esteem can be caused if you are brought up in a family where you are expected to be a “high achiever”. Low self esteem can be caused because the child and the the adult cannot live up to unrealistic standards.
HypnoHut Hypnotherapy has dealt with a number of people whose problems stem from this “childhood abuse”, for that is what it is. I must say that we are no more special in this respect, there is not a competent hypnotherapist who has not dealt with these situations.
This feeling of lack of self worth has been programmed in the child. In order to rid the person of that belief that he/she is a “worthless idiot”, it is necessary to “reprogramme” the mind. Without doubt hypnotherapy is the best way of achieving this. If this is a problem that has blighted your life for as long as you can remember, come and see us in the HypnoHut for a free consultation and see how we might be able to help.